Special

这几天老爸老妈突然都提了几下我的单身问题，我自然是虚心接受的应付过去。

LOL
只是觉得老妈给的理由非常天真可爱。
：）
不外是能有个人来爱你照顾你。
问题是我自己爱自己，也能照顾自己不就可以了么。还有人能和自己一样了解自己么？
爱和照顾都是要有代价的，要做牺牲和去适应另一个人的生活方式和想法，最好的situation也是中和。

可能是我的sense of security比较高。
可是我觉得大部分人早早结婚不外是take the easy way out。

人出生就是individual，有自己的思想和天生的困惑 “Who I am 和 What's the meaning of my life。” 而Love就是一种证明自己是Special的途径吧？毕竟要在6.68 billion human population中用能力证明自己是很困难的，而在这么多人中找一个喜欢自己的人就很容易了。只要有一个人"爱"自己而不"爱"自己除外的任何人那么不就证明自己是独一无二的么？

People always want something more than immediate joy or that deeper sense called happiness. This is one of the secrets by which we shape the fulfillment of our designs. The something more assumes amplified power with people who cannot give it a name or who (most often the case) do not even suspect its existence. Most people only react unconsciously to such hidden forces. Thus, we have only to call a calculated something more into existence, define it and give it shape, then people will follow.
Leadership Secrets of the Bene Gesserit
Heretics of Dune

想想是整个社会都要寻找生存意义的人们好控制还是寻找爱情的人们好控制?

In all of my universe I have seen no law of nature, unchanging and inexorable. This universe only presents changing relationships which are sometimes seen as laws by short-lived awareness. These fleshy sensoria which we call self are ephemera withering in the blaze of infinity, fleetingly aware of temporary conditions which confine our activities and change as our activities change. If you must label the absolute, use its proper name: Temporary.
The Stolen Journals
God Emperor of Dune

Temporay。对于时间来说，无论是“爱情”，“照顾”，“安全感”都是暂时的，所以不必执著于任何这种idea，顺其自然就可以。用“自在的生活”的代价去换取false sense of security and warmth，对我来说是economical unreasonable的consideration。

LOL